“How are you feeling today?”
“My feelings were hurt.”
“I’m not feeling it.”
It would be easier to respond to the “facts” about our life situations if people asked, “What is true about your life today?”, or “What can you do today that will make a positive difference?”
We can easily become overly concerned about what we ‘think” someone else is ‘thinking’ regarding us. When, in actuality, we may be the furthest thing from their minds. When I begin thinking like this, I chuckle and remind myself that I am only ‘kind of a big deal’ in my own mind. 🙂
Picture a train, the engine is the power that drives it and the caboose (when they were used) served to house the crew responsible for track switching and acting as lookouts for load shifting or other concerns. If we regard the TRUTH about our lives as the engine of the train that drives us, we can move along empowered by making decisions based on what we know to be right. If, on the other hand, we are led by our FEELINGS, it is as if we are letting the caboose engineer our life train and we become disempowered because we can be on a roller coaster driven by emotions and not truth. It is stressful and chaotic at best and ultimately results in, you guessed it, a train wreck!
Avoiding this mindset of feelings-driven living, requires us to be intentional in cultivating a belief system that is grounded in the truth about any given situation. By recognizing the things we have the power to change as well as the ones we need to accept, we can be empowered to put our efforts where we can make the most difference.
When I struggle with determining the facts vs. my feelings, I ask myself, “What am I feeling about the current situation I am facing?” And then, “What is true about the current situation I am facing?”
Feelings are merely assumptions we make, often based on past experiences, and can impact what we believe about the way something is likely to turn out.
It is much less stressful to focus on the facts and adjust to what is true than it is to be carried on the winds of our feelings, emotionally going up and down and never really sure what is true and what to expect.
Regardless of our feelings or emotions, we can choose to remind ourselves that our feelings follow our actions, so choose what is the next best thing you need to do and do it… the right feelings will come along in due time!
Sheri Geyer hails from Savannah, loves blogging her Southern Grandma-isms, sunsets, porch sittin’ with her hubby and fur babies, all kinds of tea, and Jesus! Her most exciting happenin’ of late is that she is a Grandma-to-be in May 2020!
Sheri Geyer was born in Savannah, and has spent most of her life in Georgia, both in rural areas and living in the big city of Atlanta. Sheri is a Master Certified Christian Life Coach whose career includes 30+ years of ministry and successful business ownership.
Through her work, personal life experience and mostly her Grandmother’s Wisdom, Sheri has developed a passion for encouraging others to enjoy a more simplified life in all of the significant areas. She provides her tried and true, southern “Grandma-isms” to guide others to a path of peace that often leads to a more fulfilling life and the best version of themselves.
Sheri writes at SheriGeyer.Blog offering encouraging perspectives for living simply. She also coaches groups and individuals on the benefit of living life in a manner that aligns with the values that are most important to them.
Sheri is Managing Broker of Fathom Realty-Savannah. She and her husband, Jeff Geyer, are teamed up in Real Estate as The Geyer Team.
A “Brady Bunch Mom” of sorts, Sheri has 3 daughters and 3 stepsons, and enjoys a simple life in the Savannah area with hubby, Jeff, and furry buddies, Libby & Max (doggies) and Snow & Storm (kitties). She is a Grandma-to-be, coming May 2020!
She enjoys reading, writing, fireside and porch chats, coffee & tea, family & friends, simple living, clean eating, fresh air, older music, rocking chairs, her hubby and kiddos, fur babies, and Real Estate.