Choosing to do something or not do something based on what we “think” others would say about our choice prevents us from having the freedom to make the best choices. Having to first “check in” with a panel of judges, internal or external adds confusion to the decision-making process.
Accountability and support are extremely important. And the folks in our life, who are committed to our well-being without attempting to control us, can provide excellent guidance for us. Having listened to our hearts and shared in our joys and sorrows, they are in the best position to offer objective advice.
A good indicator of these supportive relationships is that we feel valued and not judged, when sharing our thoughts, feelings, hopes and dreams with them. When we are making choices that align with our overall direction in life, those who support us are willing to cheerlead and urge us on. And, if we are considering a choice that may not appear to be the best for us, they have the courage and our permission to remind us of our values and question us on the choices we may be considering.
The key difference in someone who believes in us, respects our choices and our right to make them, is that they will ASK questions as opposed to TELLING us what they think we should do.
To get over believing what other people think about us, it is wise to remember that their opinions of us are really none of our business.
A possible reason for listening to the panel of judges is a fear of failure. However, consider the fact that we never truly “fail” unless we quit trying to find a way that satisfies the pursuit we are on.
An effective way to face the fear of failure is to visualize the worst case scenario and ask ourselves what would we do if it were to happen?
My grandmother always said, “when people are talking about ‘you’ they’re leaving someone else alone”.
Yet, the truth is that people will always be talking; they will always be judging. This is something we have no power to change. But we do have the power to choose what we believe is best for ourselves!
Sheri Geyer hails from Savannah with a bit of a sassy, southern-style. She loves her family, amazing friends, fur babies, reading, writing, porch visits, sunsets and peach tea! Her most amazing new adventure is that she becomes ‘Grandma’ in May 2020!
Sheri Geyer was born in Savannah, and has spent most of her life in Georgia, both in rural areas and living in the big city of Atlanta. Sheri is a Master Certified Christian Life Coach whose career includes 30+ years of ministry and successful business ownership.
Through her work, personal life experience and mostly her Grandmother’s Wisdom, Sheri has developed a passion for encouraging others to enjoy a more simplified life in all of the significant areas. She provides her tried and true, southern “Grandma-isms” to guide others to a path of peace that often leads to a more fulfilling life and the best version of themselves.
Sheri writes at SheriGeyer.Blog offering encouraging perspectives for living simply. She also coaches groups and individuals on the benefit of living life in a manner that aligns with the values that are most important to them.
Sheri is Managing Broker of Fathom Realty-Savannah. She and her husband, Jeff Geyer, are teamed up in Real Estate as The Geyer Team.
A “Brady Bunch Mom” of sorts, Sheri has 3 daughters and 3 stepsons, and enjoys a simple life in the Savannah area with hubby, Jeff, and furry buddies, Libby & Max (doggies) and Snow & Storm (kitties). She is a Grandma-to-be, coming May 2020!
She enjoys reading, writing, fireside and porch chats, coffee & tea, family & friends, simple living, clean eating, fresh air, older music, rocking chairs, her hubby and kiddos, fur babies, and Real Estate.